You’ve been dating this handsome guy for a while and everything went perfect. Until your best friend appeared in the scene, you thought it was the time to introduce him to some important persons in your life. And she was one of them. But now, when she is around, you feel that something is not all right. It seems that your best friend tries to flirt with him. And this makes you feel really bad. What do do in this situation? Read the advices below to find out:
Make sure it’s not only in your head
Sometimes, when we are in love we are so afraid to loose that guy, that we start imagine things. Are you sure is not your case? Are you really really sure you saw her flirting with him? Was that really a flirt or she was just trying to be nice? It happened several times or just once? Remember exactly what she did. Do you have examples? Just make sure is not only in your head. Only after you are absolutely sure you are right, you should start doing something about that.
Get advice from another friend
If you need a second opinion, talk to somebody else about that. Another trusted friend, a sister or even your mother can really help you.
Talk to your friend when your boyfriend is not there
Don’t talk to your friend about that when your boyfriend is around. Organize a girl’s night, go out with her in a place when you can talk without being disturbed.
Be direct, talk to her frankly
It is going to be a little bit hard, but you should talk to her directly about your concerns. Don’t wait for her to bring your boyfriend into discussion. Begin simple and straight with something like: “We need to have a serious talk about the way you interact with my boyfriend.” Tell her that her behavior makes you feel uncomfortable and angry.
Be as calm as possible
Don’t raise your voice, speak with her without anger. Avoid hurting her feelings. She might not be aware that she’s being over-friendly.
Give her examples
Remember the first step? If you decided it is not only in your head, than you should have some examples. Give your friend that specific examples.
Listen to what she has to say
Don’t argue with her and let her talk too. She might not realize what she was doing, she might feel very sorry about that. If she is sincerely sorry, accept her apology.
Ask her to stop acting that
You can forgive her for that behavior, but you should ask her to stop. If she is a real friend and cares about your feelings, she will. Even if she doesn’t think she is doing something wrong, she will stop for your sake.
If she doesn’t want to stop, you should put an end to your friendship with her
You don’t really need a “friend” like that. So, if she will continue the flirt after this discussion, you should definitely stop considering her a friend.